Is Your Conflict Resolution Style Helping or Hurting Your Marriage?

Take this free quiz to find out in 5 minutes or less!

Everyone has a conflict resolution style — the way you usually attempt to resolve disputes or discord in your marriage. Your answers to the following 9 questions will help you learn about your default response when you and your spouse aren’t on the same page.

After completing the quiz, you’ll learn your personal conflict resolution style, which can lead you to a more productive and healthy way to get clarity and better results from any conflicts you face with your spouse. The answer may surprise you!

Marriage Conflict Resolution Style Quiz

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Marriage Conflict Resolution Style Quiz

For each question, choose the answer that most closely matches your belief. Be honest with yourself — there are no right or wrong answers and your responses will not be shared with anyone else.

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How do you usually respond after you have a disagreement with someone in your family?

You try to find a peaceful middle ground where everyone could be less upset.

You hold your tongue, hoping the problem will go away eventually.

You lean into the conflict and attempt to understand the root cause and fix the problem.

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You and your spouse are having a debate about a topic you care about deeply, but your spouse isn’t on the same page. What do you do?

You believe there’s got to be some common ground, so you strive to find at least one small point about the topic that you can both agree on.

You keep your thoughts to yourself.

You realize they don’t quite get it the way you do, and try to explain further.

3

Your spouse continues to do something that annoys you. How do you respond?

You attempt to talk to them to find out what can be done so you’re both happy.

You clarify to your spouse how their behavior is affecting you negatively so they can better understand why they need to stop.

You’ll most likely just take a breath, keep your mouth closed, and try to look past it.

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You and your spouse had big plans for a night out, but they decide at the last minute that they don’t want to go. How do you respond?

You realize your spouse seems to do this often, so you offer a solution.

You try to negotiate a middle ground and come up with ideas that will let you both get what you want.

Although you’re disappointed, you go along with their decision because it’s not worth a bigger fight.

5

You find out your spouse has been keeping a secret from you and you do not know what it is. What do you do?

You wish they’d tell you, but are nervous about what might come of it, so you let it go for now.

You try to have a conversation to find common ground.

You realize that secrets are not good in a marriage so you find out how to get your spouse to open up.

6

Your spouse has a friend that you don’t like. What are you going to do about it?

You talk with your spouse to find a solution where you’re both happy with or without that relationship.

You actively point out reasons why that friendship is not good in hopes that they’ll understand and spend less time with them.

You keep your opinions about that friend to yourself but quietly avoid the situation.

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You and your spouse can’t agree on how to spend your next vacation. How do you resolve this?

You share your desires about your trip, but ultimately let them make the final decision.

You make a middle-ground decision that will make you both happy.

You understand why your perspectives are different, so you propose an alternative.

8

Your spouse buys you a birthday gift that you don’t really like. How do you respond?

You’re disappointed but don’t want to hurt their feelings, so you say “thank you” and put on your best smile.

You understand they tried their best, but let them know that those kinds of gifts aren’t really your thing.

You thank them, but later discuss solutions to meet each other halfway.

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You feel like your spouse expects too much from you when it comes to household chores. How do you handle that?

You work to make a balanced chore list so both of you are satisfied and the work gets done.

You keep trying to do the best job that you can and decide not to make a big deal about it.

You make a point of talking together about reasonable expectations for all the hard work you’re doing.

Is Your Conflict Resolution Style Helping or Hurting Your Marriage?

Take this free quiz to find out in 5 minutes or less!

Marriage Conflict Resolution Style Quiz

Marriage Conflict Resolution Style Quiz

For each question, choose the answer that most closely matches your belief. Be honest with yourself — there are no right or wrong answers and your responses will not be shared with anyone else.

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