Are You a Burned Out Dad?

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Basic Questions

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In which age range do you belong?

18-24

25-29

30-34

35-39

40-44

45-49

50-54

55-59

60+

Which applies to you?

Married

Separated

Divorced

Remarried

Widowed

Living with significant other

Dating

Single

How many children do you have?

One

Two

Three

Four or more

How old are your children?

Do you have any relatives, not your children, that you are a caretaker for (eg. parents, grandparents, other)?

Are you employed?

a. Yes, full-time

b. Yes, part-time

c. Yes, full-time, work from home

d. Yes, part-time, work from home

e. I care for my children and family and/or am currently not employed

How satisfied are you with your career and/or job?

Very satisfied

Satisfied

Somewhat satisfied

Not very satisfied

Not satisfied

Which statement do you most agree with in regards to your financial situation?

I worry about finances every day

I often worry about finances.

Sometimes I worry about finances.

On occasion, I worry about finances, but mostly when I have a large bill/expense

I never worry about finances.

Emotional Exhaustion

1. How often do you feel exhausted regardless of how much rest and sleep you get?

a. Everyday

b. Several times a week

c. Several days in the month

d. Only when I can't sleep

e. I never feel exhausted

2. How often do you experience guilt? (eg. for your actions, not being enough, or not doing enough)

a. All the time

b. Several times a week

c. Only when I'm having a tough day

d. Hardly ever

e. Never

3. Do you dread getting out of bed to start the day?

a. Yes, every morning!

b. Most mornings, I dread getting out of bed.

c. Sometimes, but coffee or tea can get me going.

d. Rarely, only when I'm sick or it's raining.

e. Never, I can't wait to start the day.

4. How often do you feel bored?

a. Never, who has time to feel bored?

b. On occasion, I feel bored, but not often.

c. Sometimes, because some days are just so boring doing the same thing over and over.

d. Most of the time.

e. Every day and all the time.

5. Do you have difficulty with concentration and attention and find it a challenge to get things done?

a. All the time, I can never seem to focus and get things done.

b. Often, it is a real struggle to focus and get things done.

c. Sometimes, depending on what is going on around me.

d. Rarely do I have problems with focusing and getting things done.

e. Never, I am always able to focus and get things done.

Emotional Stress/Detachment Questions

1.Do you isolate yourself in relationships, whether with friends, family, or acquaintances?

a. Yes, I withdraw or isolate in my relationships.

b. Most of the time I withdraw and isolate in my relationships.

c. Sometimes, depending on my stress levels or the demands in my life.

d. Rarely do I withdraw and isolate in my relationships.

e. I never withdraw and isolate in my relationships.

2.Do you participate in interests/hobbies/activities that you enjoy and look forward to doing?

a. Yes, all the time, I make sure to put it in my schedule.

b. Yes, as often as I can.

c. Sometimes, I wish I could do more but finding the time is difficult.

d. Rarely, I've lost interest in many things I used to enjoy.

e. No, I've lost interest in everything I once enjoyed.

3.How often do you feel irritated, annoyed, or stressed?

a. Every day

b. Several times a week

c. Several times a month

d. Hardly ever

e. Only when my in-laws visit

4. Which statement most accurately summarizes your view of the future?

a. I am quite optimistic and hopeful about the future.

b. I am mostly optimistic and hopeful about the future.

c. How I feel about the future depends on the stress in my life.

d. I am not very optimistic or hopeful about the future.

e. I don't have much hope or optimism about the future.

5. How often do you snap, use sarcasm, or react annoyed to your children and family?

a. All the time, whenever they are around me!

b. Often, do you know who I live with?

c. Sometimes, when it's justified or I am hormonal.

d. Seldom, only when I'm really stressed out.

e. Never, I am calm and kind all the time.

6. When your child is upset, hurt, or frustrated, how do you respond?

a. Never, I ignore it. Eventually they will get over it.

b. Seldom, I'm slow to respond and take a wait-and-see approach.

c. It depends on the situation or if my child is really hurt or just trying to manipulate me.

d. Often, the only thing that slows me down is if I'm driving or I didn't know about it.

e. Always, with compassion and support.

7. How often do you feel joy, gratitude, and happiness?

a. Every day I feel joy, gratitude, and happiness.

b. Several times a week I feel joy, gratitude, and happiness.

c. On occasion, I feel joy, gratitude, and happiness.

d. I rarely feel joy, gratitude, or happiness, and I can't remember what they feel like

e. Never - what do joy, gratitude, and happiness even feel like?

8. Do you find yourself avoiding your child by placing them in front of the television or using screen time, such as gaming or videos, instead of interacting with them because you don't have the energy?

a. All the time, it's just so challenging to be around my child/children.

b. Often, I'm so tired, and my kids can be so exhausting.

c. Sometimes - the reality is, I have no other choice.

d. Rarely, and when I do it's for a justifiable reason.

e. Never, I always have the energy to deal with my child/children.

Personal Accomplishments

1.Which statement best describes your to-do list for any given day?

a. I always complete what's on my to-do list.

b. I usually complete what's on my to-do list.

c. Sometimes I complete my to-do list, but it's a struggle.

d. Rarely, I put way too much on my to-do/chore list every day, and it seldom gets completed.

e. To-do list? No way, totally overrated.

2. Do you have difficulty taking care of your children and find their needs overwhelming?

a. Absolutely! It's overwhelming and difficult all of the time.

b. Almost every day I find it overwhelming and difficult.

c. Several times a week I feel it's overwhelming and difficult.

d. Rarely, it can be challenging, but I wouldn't describe it as overwhelming and difficult.

e. Never, I'm in a good place caring for my children.

3. Do you put pressure on yourself to do most things "perfectly"?

a. Always, I need to be perfect.

b. Often, I work to be close to perfect.

c. Sometimes, depending on my situation.

d. Rarely, I keep perfection in check.

e. Never, perfection is overrated.

4. How often do you feel a sense of accomplishment at the end of the day?

a. Always, I feel good about what I get done in a day.

b. Often, I feel good about what I've done in a day.

c. Sometimes, depending on how much is done.

d. Seldom, feeling accomplished is overrated.

e. Never - accomplishment, what's that?

5. How often do you hear positive feedback (eg. "Nice job," "you're a wonderful mom," "thank you," "I appreciate you")?

a. Every day

b. Several times a week

c. On occasion

d. Rarely

e. Never - what is positive feedback?

6.How satified are you with your career and/or job?

a. Very satisfied

b. Satisfied

c. Somewhat satisfied

d. Not very satisfied

e. Not satisfied

Self-Care Behaviors

1.How often are you able to get at least 7 hours of sleep?

a. Every night

b. Most nights

c. Sometimes, it depends on the night

d. Rarely

e. Never

2. Which coping mechanisms, or activities/ways to manage stress, do you use?

Exercise

Eating

Napping or sleeping

Drinking alcohol

Spending time with friends

Yoga

Therapy

Shopping

Journaling

Cooking

Arts and crafts

Meditation

Prayer

Attending and participating in religious services

Cleaning

Other personal interests (please specify)

Other hobbies (please specify)

If other personal interests, please describe:

If other hobbies, please describe:

3. Which statement best describes how you feel about yourself as a dad?

a. I worry all the time about being a good mom! I think about this a lot.

b. I often worry about if I am a good mom.

c. Sometimes I worry, but usually it's because I'm having a tough day with my kids.

d. Rarely do I worry, I think I'm doing okay.

e. I never worry - I'm doing a pretty good job.

4. How often do you make time for yourself to reset, replenish, and reset?

a. Daily

b. At least once a week.

c. Several times a month.

d. Only on vacation or holidays.

e. Never.

Social Support

1.How often do you experience tension with one or more family members?

a. Every day, my home is like a pressure cooker.

b. Most of the time, there is a lot of tension in my house.

c. Sometimes there is tension and conflict.

d. Seldom, there is tension on rare occasions.

e. Never, we all get along and work out our problems.

2. Which statement most closely describes your friendships?

a. I have a large group of friends who are emotionally supportive.

b. I have a couple of close friends who are emotionally supportive.

c. I have some friends, who at times are emotionally supportive, and other times are not.

d. I have some friends, but with limited emotional support.

e. I have no friends and don't receive much emotional support.

3. Would you describe your immediate family as supportive? This includes emotional and tangible support.

a. Always

b. Mostly

c. Sometimes

d. Rarely

e. Never

4. What is the most stressful part of parenting for you?

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